Remember we will experience problems, tough times, pain and many times churches or the people in it are not equipped to minister effectively or even understand some of our problems with our past life outside of Christ or our struggles whilst serving Christ.
Then realize if you reach out to these they will have cut and dry answers "it's under the blood" "that's what you once were your a new creature now" "it’s all in the Word” “you will get fixed up if you read and study your Bible” "oh no that's what you once were if the past knocks at the door don't answer it has nothing to say" but our past is part of our present.
Getting angry at their ignorance or solutions like “go and witness” “do something for someone else” “sow a seed” “get on your knees” “stop your introspection” “don’t focus on the problem” “get into the Word” "just obey the Word" “join a house or cell or men’s or woman’s group” "just do a Bible study or a sixty day course and you will never desire same sex attraction ever again" or "don't ever confess your not healed or you have homosexual lust for He can surely heal you of SSA" will only cause you to want to run in the other direction. Then there is the opposite, if you bury your anger and keep anger bottled up it will surface again and come to life when you lease expect it.
The ‘good Christian’ does not realize or understand struggling people, sexual brokenness or homosexuality so don't take it to heart. They neither understand we have psychological problems, different temperaments or are in need of on going healing of painful memories, trauma, rejection and abandonment and ...... No they do not have our buried hurts, or are they bound in strongholds of attitudes or have the personality disfunction and fragmentation that ex-homosexuals have so they will not understand so take no offense, they have not walked in our shoes or had the mind conditioning our minds have had for years and years, move on keep your eyes on the shore.
They don't know and many will not know that it is an outworking a healing process and a sanctification walk and one that does not happen over night but takes years. But while He restores us heals us sanctifies us we make the choice to remain faithful to The Faith. We make a choice to go on for Jesus regardless how painful times can get, how much temptation the flesh and the devils throw at us. We make the choice to be honest and vunerable to reach out for support from those who know where we are at, those who are also ex-homosexuals committed to a lifestyle of relationship with Jesus.
You and I know that any internal problems that have caused our homosexuality need to be changed and contary to some beliefs identifying the spirits that fortify homosexuality evicted of their legal rights of tenancy. All this needs to be sought and need to be prayed about to be brought to the light so as He can pin point the roots and the off shoots cut off so we can continue to walk more in the change and newness of life in Christ Jesus.
Angry at others inadequacies can make you want to turn away from church and this will only nurture anger than set us free from its destructive and snowballing force. Anger can cause us to go into a cave or into an unsanctified flight cycle and will temp us to act out or pressure desire in us to return to our former past either in thoughts, words or actions.
But the truth is, we have enough defects of character and brokenness to deal with so we do not want to be guilty of wanting to change their ignorance or faults and flaws to bring them to understand us that our little world is full of compatible and understanding people who are all for our plight." [Malligan 2011:55]
Reach out to ministries that minister to those like us and reach out for like minded people and guard your heart and your walk to lay not all your burdens on those who do not have a clue of our past or present struggles. :)
Be blessed and be a blessing
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