Our Abba Father does not say I will love you if ... or I will love you after you ... or I will love you provided ... or I love and approve of you only when ...
His love depends not on us doing anything, or being anyone or doing this or doing that but on what He is. God is love so He loves, God approves because He sent His only begotten perfect sinless Son as our substitute.
Gods unconditional love an approval cannot be brought cannot be worked for cannot be earned cannot be given because of any works action attitude gender race or status. His love and approval is manifested because of grace because of His nature cannot stop but love and understand the human nature.
Our past brokenness and the abuses against us distort our thinking even religion defames the character of our Father yet in time the distortion will diminish as your healing springs forth and you will be able to embrace the Father and you will be able to receive His love just because He loves and He is love unconditional.