Remember you cannot please everyone, what you do right someone will think you have done wrong. What you have done wrong someone will praise you for it and say it was right, you will never please everyone, and recall we fear God not men, we do not live our life to please mankind but as before God our Lord and Savior.
Recall sin is in the hearts of those in church they will reject you and especially for our past sexual bondage; Satan has his seat in the church, and Satan has his seat in various parts of the hearts of God’s people - us included and can and does work very easily through others to get to us.
So if you are expecting to be embraced for the totality of who your were who you are and where you are at today in the transformation journey or to be in a perfect church, social group, or woman’s group, or home group or other church groups or a Bible College you need to lower your expectations and receive unto yourself a reality check.
We are not in a popularity contest; we are not to pursue to be embrased or loved by every Tom Dick or Harry or Jill, Jane or Jackie, because it will never happen. We have faults they have faults and people will always find fault in you and me no matter who they are and visa versa.
The person of the flesh will always persecute the person of the Spirit; the flesh, the immature babe will always judge from sight than with The Spirit of Righteousness (John 7:24, 8:15); the fearful will always offend, the envious, the jealous, the prideful will always find some type of criticism to speak your way and so it is with the carnal side of all of us.
Until you are established in your heart that you serve Him to please Him you will always be tossed to and fro when people speak against you or correct you or ignore you or are not overjoyed to see and receive you or embrace the brokenness of you or the who you once were.
Maturity is a process and a painful process, when we continue to keep an attitude of me, myself and I’s wants and needs and selfish aspirations and focusing on what others think, judge or say pain remains, pain will remain, anger, bitterness, disappointment and grief.
As Paul said “I cannot speak to you as spiritual ones, but as to fleshly ones, as to babes in Christ.” (1 Corinthians 3:1) Contentment with Godliness is of great gain (1 Timothy 6:6), yes gain, it has to be gained, learnt (Philippians 4:11), we grow up in Godliness the ways of our Lord and Savior to become more like Him, not more like natural person who is without God and darkened in their minds or the old us who was full of self rule, reign. We have to make the transition or we make the digression so its either light or darkness, Spirit of flesh ... AND GUESS WHAT - WE HAVE TO MORE THAN OTHERS IN THE BODY BECAUSE OF WHERE WE HAVE COME FROM.
“Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is –his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2 NIV
If we refuse to come to Him to have life (John 5:39-40) and are not willing to give our life or our whole heart to Jesus we will not become more like Him or know Him in His fullness (1 Corinthians 2:2; Galatians 6:14) neither will we come out of immaturity or the old carnal / homosexual ways so we need to digest this way of life and walk there in it.
“We know that our old self was crucified with him so that the sinful body might be destroyed, and we might no longer be enslaved to sin.” Romans 6:6
We are in the Kingdom of God, this is the reality so we may as well get our thinking into line with Kingdom living Kingdom requirements Kingdom expectations as those who belong and walk in His Kingdom here on earth.
Its time to tell our flesh daily and often when it wants its own carnal desires “no flesh you do not live like the uncircumcised, you are conforming to righteousness you are growing up whether you like it or not, you are in the Kingdom...and you will live by Kingdom ways” 1. [Malligan, 12:2005] [Words in italics here added mine]
1. Malligan, Kathleen, M. D. When You Have Had Enough of Christianity [Triumphant Ministries Toowoomba]